It’s so funny when you hear things about yourself that aren't true. I know it bothers most people when they hear unflattering stuff being themselves. But I find such talk amusing. There was a time when it used to rile me, and even drive me to tears. I used to go into the, “I am not like that, why are they saying these mean things about me?’ mode. But no more. Thanks to the advice of the sane voice in my life. He asked me to stop and answer some questions before I allowed myself to wallow in self-pity.
Do these people matter to me?
Does it matter what they are saying?
If what they are saying true?
I found that the answers to these questions was always no. Then I why was I letting it get to me? Now I don’t even waste a minute thinking about it. I reject people’s definitions of me. I know who I am. The few people in my life who matter, know who I am, and I have no desire for the rest of the world to know me. They are free to believe what they want of me. I have no time to worry about them and their impressions about me.
I also never believe things said about other people. I prefer to make my own impressions. Very shallow people believe gossip about people and repeat them. A few years ago, there were some stories about a married girl having an affair with the boss. I didn’t know the girl very well but she was the most beautiful girl on the premises, (and good at her work) so it is obvious that jealous and petty minds would be at a work. For months everyone speculated about them, and whenever they were spotted talking on the floor, there were sniggers and giggles from grown men and women alike. I refused to be part of this. Whenever the topic came up in front of me, I defended the pair, and asked people what were they basing these rumours on, and they would say, “oh I heard this and I heard that.’ Nothing substantiated but that didn’t stop them from taking devilish delight in spreading the sordid stories, which was started (and regularly fanned) by an insecure jerk. Now a year later, everyone grudgingly admits that probably nothing was on between them. Probably because both of them are not in this organization anymore. No they are not a threat to anyone. This is just one example. But that's how rumours get started.
I wish more people felt the need to question rumours and gossip, before they began passing it around as the holy turth. But fact is, people don’t. I stand up and fight it whenever I can, when it comes to other people. But when it comes ot me, I believe: One cannot go through life giving explanations and justifications to everyone. As long as the few people who are important to you, know you who are, then nothing else matters.
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ppl r born to talk...!
People are born to talk and you can do NOTHING but ignore them...at some point it does hurt u and pinches you...but what can you do??
the more u justify and give explanations..the more they get a reason to talk..
u r right...as far the ppl u care abt and who care for u know who ur and wat ur doing...one sud give a damn abt others...
Itz absolutely right and nice on ur path and defend ppl abt whom things r being talked unnecessarily..! but can do ntn when it comes to urself...!
Written by: sonal | 31/12 08:50PM
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